Healing Is More Than Fixing

In this episode of Just Call Jenna, host Jenna Williams explores the idea that healing is not about fixing yourself, but returning to wholeness. She explains how trauma can become stored in the nervous system, body, and energy centers, shaping emotional patterns like fear, self-doubt, people-pleasing, and emotional shutdown. 

Jenna discusses practices that support healing and restoring energetic balance, including grounding, breathwork, emotional release, affirmations, and somatic awareness. She also shares how healing is an ongoing relationship with yourself — learning to feel safe, reconnect with wounded parts of yourself, and move through life with greater peace and self-awareness. 

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Hi, welcome back.

Today I'm talking about healing is more than fixing.

In this episode, we're not talking about healing from like a book smart way We're not about fixing, not forcing, not pretending everything is fine, but real healing the kind of healing that happens in your nervous system, in your energy, and in the places that you have learned to hide. Healing is about returning to wholeness.

I actually cringe inside a little bit when people say, oh, how long did it take you to recover from the stroke? Um I will for the rest of my life be recovering, but that's returning to wholeness It's not linear. It doesn't happen in places that you can plan, but it is a returning of wholeness. It is calling yourself home.

Trauma, any kind of trauma, It doesn't have to be big like my stroke. For some people, it's a fight with your spouse. It's something that happened at work, whatever that trauma is. And that's not my place to judge.

But I want you to know that trauma fragments us. A part stays frozen in fear. Parts gonna become hyper independent, parts gonna shut down, parts gonna become caretaker Energy healing is about becoming whole. It's about calling all those parts back home. It's about connecting eight-year-old you and eighty-year-old you that you're not yet.

For me, healing is a lot more than fixing It's not putting a band-aid on and it's not giving it a pill and treating a symptom. It's about returning to wholeness. Who you were before that trauma happened. Who is your authentic self? That is energy healing.

Most of us are gonna think healing is going back to normal. But spirituality tells us that healing is really about becoming whole. You are not broken. You're just fragmented by experiences. Trauma is stored in three places. It's stored in your nervous system. It's stored in your fascia and your muscles, and it's stored in your energetic body.

Calming down the nervous system is the first step. The nervous system is fight, flight, or freeze, right? When trauma isn't resolved, these become your personality traits. In your fascia and your muscles. Tension becomes your armor. Pain becomes a memory. That's where it's stored.

In your energetic body, it's your chakras constrict, your mediums stagnate, and your aura contracts Energy gets stuck in you. I need you to think about that. When you heal, you restore your life force.

I was a Gen X kid. I remember growing up and playing Zelda and you know when you got the Triforce Everything came back together and you expanded. So that was your life force. Trauma, I think, has a different feeling with a lot of people or a different vibe and understanding. Trauma doesn't have to be smack. It doesn't have to be As shocking as my stroke. Sure, those are gonna shock a little bit more. To some people, trauma is things that happen over and over and over again You got unseen. You were dismissed.

You got overlooked for the promotion at work. You were your feelings were ignored by your spouse. You were betrayed by a best friend. All these kind of things can be traumas.

Sometimes the waves are tsunamis, and sometimes they're just gentle waves that erode along the shore over time. All of those things cause traumas that get trapped in the body. So healing them is about calling yourself back home, making your energy safe, putting it where your energy s keeps flowing. You're in the flow. Where it stops flowing, pain gets trapped. It gets stuck. And where that happens, you literally drain your life force.

I don't know about you, but I want to go on living. When we talk about where your life force is, your chakras are one of the big ones. They are energy centers. It's where prana, which is referred to as your life energy flows. You want your life energy to flow. That's part of healing. Returning to wholeness. I don't think you ever return, at least in my view. I think the day you're whole is the day the game's over. You just sort of accept I'm never going to be fully done with this project, but I can be in the flow. And I think that's the game. That's the win.

It's not about getting to the next thing. It's sort of leveling up and calling the parts of you back so that you feel whole. It's returning to wholeness.

Your root chakra is where your safety is Things like trauma and abandonment really affect it. They cause problems. Those are gonna affect you and they're gonna show up like anxiety and fear. That's how you know your root chakra needs some healing.

In your sacral, that's where emotion and pleasure is held. Trauma is the shame and betrayal. Symptoms like numbness and guilt So shaming yourself is probably needing some sacral healing.

Solar plexus. That's you like your belly button The traumas are control and criticism, and they will show up as symptoms with self-worth and confidence.

Your heart chakra, that's love. Traumas like loss and rejection Symptoms like trust issues or guarding yourself. That's gonna tell you you need to heal in your heart chakra.

Your third eye chakra, that's trust. Traumas like gaslighting They're gonna show up like symptoms of self-doubt. I don't know if I can do this. Trusting your intuition.

Your crown chakra is the top. Symptoms like Emptiness, disconnectedness, that's where you're gonna go get those types of healings. Healing is about restoring the flow of your prana or your life energy. There are places out there that we call it like your qi if you're doing like tai chi or qigong. But it's still the same idea. Like you want to be in the flow So I always think about it like as I breathe, that's my prana, right? That's my life energy.

I spend a lot of time looking into like where would my chakras be as far as healing.

So there are some other techniques that you can do that'll really help return or healing more than fixing, which is kind of my whole message It's it's not fixing. You're not just building a shelf and following some instructions. You're calling yourself back. You're returning to wholeness. You're returning to the flow.

Things that are important, grounding. Bear feet in grass, slow breathing. Go sit down in nature and breathe the air. Go connect with nature. you'd be amazed at how much being around trees or flowing water can just help ground you, help call you back to yourself.

I actually have a grounding mat on my bed You can buy these and they go at the feet of your bed, so while you sleep, your feet are on this mat that has the same pulse hertz as the ground of the earth I sleep on it and it took about three weeks before I even noticed a di a difference. I will tell you, my dog does.

When dogs get scared by sounds like fireworks on 4th of July, those kind of things, they generally panic a little bit, and we find that they go and hide in bathtubs or showers It's actually not to try to get away from the sound. There is a hertz frequency that happens for those noises and it creates almost like a static electricity in their fur. And so what they do is they go to tile or like the cast iron tub and because it helps take that static out of their fur, kind of feels like pins and needles to them, to my understanding. I don't know if that's accurate, but that's what the trainers told me. And now with the grounding mat, my dog doesn't go do that anymore. She'll just lay on my bed because the hurts from the grounding mat actually gives her the same calmness. It is that frequency of Hertz. The earth has a Hertz and those grounding mats do that.

Another great one is one that I learned in Pranayama, which is called chakra breathing. So it's visualizing light in each center and just breathe in and out of your blockages. You will get very familiar with them. When it feels a certain way, you can just breathe into them. I still struggle with my heart chakra because I experienced a lot of grief. So sometimes just sitting there and breathing in and out of my heart chakra to let things flow, the prana will flow. I'm not perfect. I'm human. I'm having a human experience.

And emotional release is really important too. Those emotions are gonna well up Cry, shake, shake, sounds. You've heard me say hurts. I like to go on, you know, like my Apple iTunes and I just find certain hurts because certain hurts have frequencies. For example, 528 Hertz is known as the healing frequency. And sometimes I'll just have it on while I'm breathing because it's a hertz that the body naturally restores itself at.

These are emotional releases. Crying, shaking, sighing, and sound. Those are how you're going to release the emotions. Not just naming them, which I do a lot of, but to actually let them flow out of the body.

Energy clearing is just as important. Things you can do, salt baths, sage smudging, visualization, I like mantras and affirmations, starting to experiment with some chanting, but Mantras are a big one. The affirmations. Open up all the windows. Let fresh air into your home. Let that flow, clearing that energy. Clearing the energy of you.

I just went and spent some time in some mineral baths up in Calistoga because I'm lucky enough to live close But those kind of things really make a difference. Grounding yourself, clearing your energy. I'm a huge fan of the chakra breathing and the hurts. Go look up Hertz on the internet, you'll find that there's multiple ones for different things. Different frequencies actually make the body respond in different ways.

There is a fascinating thing you can look up on the internet and I'm gonna probably get this wrong. They have these plates that they would infuse full of Hertz like a sound frequency. And they would put sound like sand on these plates, and when they would play certain sounds the sand would automatically make mandalas. So a pile of sand when given a certain frequency would just make a mandala. This is fascinating if you want to see how sound affects things. You know, you play plants certain music and they tend to grow more and bloom more. I think you should be looking at how do you clear your energetic body. It sound is one of the most fascinating ones that you almost can't see it, but you will feel the difference that it makes.

I want you to know there are some things that are going to happen when you try some of these that nobody warned me about until I actually experienced them and thought I was crazy. When your trauma is releasing, you might experience some things that feel weird. Dreams, old memories, crying, your body might feel hot, tingling, extra fatigue is really common This is actually energy moving out of your body. It is your body processing things that are stored. You are expanding by removing the blockages of your energy. It's going to feel weird because you've been storing them, but releasing them is how you heal. It's returning to flow.

You're not just physical. You're layered physical, emotional, mental, energetic, spiritual bodies. We have them all. Again, I practice energy healing because it works with the blueprint of all of them Why does energy healing work? Science shows that everything is vibration. It shows that your cells communicate electronically. Your heart actually has a magnetic field. Your thoughts affect psychology. They affect physiology, they affect your body. Everything is there. Energy healing influences your brainwaves, your hormones, your immune response, your stress chemistry. Simply put, it brings your body back into coherence. Spiritually healing reminds your body of safety. Safety is the medicine. That's what's important.

Healing isn't linear. You're not gonna just wake up and be better, but you can return to wholeness. you can return to a person you didn't know existed. I think that's kind of my point of this. When I had the stroke and I was sitting there getting real with myself in a hospital bed I didn't know that this was possible. I didn't know anything I know now. I just thought, oh, I'm supposed to get up and go back to work. Uh, no. No, no, you're not. I actually ended up finding out the hard way that I had to rewire my life. Healing myself meant becoming something I didn't know was possible.

I live a life worth living. I feel safe. Things happen that make me feel unsafe. But I think there's a piece that unless you're a woman, you probably won't get We are taught self-defense classes, carry pepper spray, all these things. We are taught to defend ourselves. against attackers. But I don't know that many men that that would actually say that they've ever attacked a woman. But it's amazing that the whole female race has to be taught to protect themselves yet no man is ever going to attack a woman. I was raised as a woman to feel unsafe all the time. Society told me to feel unsafe Don't dress a certain way, don't act a certain way, don't be a victim. I had to heal from that. These are things I didn't even know had thrown my nervous system completely off.

Healing is about returning parts of yourself. Inside you lives a younger version of you a scared child, an abandoned teen, an exhausted adult. They carry energy from your experiences. You have to call those parts of you back home. Yes, it's not going to feel comfortable when you have to heal. You stored that trauma and move forward. You sucked it up and lived with that inside of you. And now you have to release it because somewhere inside of you you're probably not even aware. You're leaking out life force that is allowing you to become the version of you that you need to be. And so take those steps.

When you ignore these versions of yourself, they're gonna manifest as symptoms. Energy healing is acknowledging them and listening to them. It doesn't mean that you're going to suddenly go, oh, okay, well, you were taught to protect yourself as a woman. Okay, there's a guardedness that exists in me because I was. I was a single mom who had to protect myself and two daughters. That's a lot of responsibility for one human to carry. And this was part of my responsibility, part of my journey, but part of my healing was to acknowledge those things.

Acknowledge that I had to become hyper-vigilant to feel that safety to protect myself and my family But these are things that a man wouldn't understand because he wasn't raised as a woman. And there are women who maybe are taught to fight from a young age that wouldn't have felt the same things I did. And there are women that are out there more scared than me. I'm only using that example because it's an experience I went through. But I had to heal from that. I had to calm myself back. I had to find my safety I had to stop ignoring those versions of myself and bring them to light and let the energy flow so that I wasn't leaking my life force. That was important to healing.

Healing was not just about healing from the stroke. It was about healing from all the things I had been through in my life.

I couldn't ignore the versions of me that were in me anymore. I would say that the best thing you can do to start healing is put your hand on your heart, take a deep breath, and ask yourself, What part of me is feeling things? Just breathe in your moments and feel that. That's where healing happens. It happens in those sensations. It's not an endpoint. I can't stress that enough. It's more like a relationship.

As you heal, you will learn to rest without guilt. You will learn to be okay with your imperfections. You will learn to feel your emotions and have no shame. you will learn to speak without fear and you will learn to love without losing yourself. I'm not saying you're gonna turn out and sit here on a podcast on camera like me, but that is what came out of me. This is my purpose. This is my journey. This is the healed version of me. I am in a relationship with myself and I will be healing and returning to wholeness for the rest of my life.

But I don't feel guilty that I have human emotions. I don't feel fear of things I don't feel guilty when I want a day off because I'm tired. I used to. I used to think I wasn't even able to sleep. When you're a single parent raising children And you're working, that's a lot of pressure. You get woken up all the time. Sleep eludes you a lot. And it's not just The babies, it's you gotta make cookies for the bake sale, you gotta help put the project together, you gotta wash the favorite shirt at 10 o'clock at night while the kid is sleeping so it's magically clean and dried in the morning. You have to do all those things. That's part of your journey.

But you sort of start giving yourself away piece by piece until you're not resting at all And so now I rest without any guilt. If I want to take a nap, I take a nap. I don't care if it's a work day, a weekend, I don't care if it's my normal sleep. If I'm tired, I'm tired. Part of that is a relationship with myself. Honoring myself when I need rest. Honoring myself that I need my kitchen to be clean so that I don't feel stress when I wake up in the morning that the kitchen has dishes and a mess that I have to clean up. It gets cleaned up every night before I go to bed.

That is something I do because the relationship of healing with me is understanding that's a trigger point I have. If the kitchen is full of dirty dishes It sends me into panic mode. And so knowing this, it's an adaptation I make to my life. I'm gonna do the dishes before bed, run the dishwasher overnight and the kitchen's clean in the morning. But this is the relationship that you have with your healing.

You find the things that make sense to you. You also just have a relationship with yourself. You honor yourself You actually become medicine just by being present. You become your own medicine.

I became a person who shares my medicine. Safety. Honoring yourself. If you're tired, if you're trying I see you, I support you. In fact, I honor you. I think you honoring yourself is such an important step to healing. But I want you to not judge yourself. I want you to just have a relationship with yourself. Don't judge what happens. Healing Is not going to be linear. It's going to surprise you. It's going to shock you. You're going to see some ugly parts of yourself. And I'm sorry that that's part of the process. But returning to wholeness is what it's about.

When you get there, and it took me really like two years after the stroke to get to that place. I live a life I enjoy. People who know me now will see. I don't overreact to things. I'm human. I have emotions. I say things, but I don't overreact. I used to. I don't I honor myself. I say, this is what I need, and I respect myself and my boundaries. I think if you focus on energy healing. You're really gonna find that you can call back places of yourself and return to a wholeness that you never had before. And it will shock you and it will feel Better than you ever thought it would.

Thanks for joining me today. Remember that karma is real, your energy is contagious, and check your vibes.